By way of introduction I should note that if I did not believe that same-sex “marriage” is having a devastating effect on marriage and children I would ignore it. What consenting adults do on their own is between them and their Creator. I will not be their judge. But, the tragic consequences of the current sexual anarchy blitzkrieg cannot go unaddressed. Too many are suffering and will suffer from it.
In the twenty plus years that I have pastored churches in Chicago and Minnesota I have encountered many people dealing with serious problems in their lives. A common thread woven through the lives of those who weathered those storms successfully was their families and their churches. On the other hand, those who floundered on and on were often those who did not have a family or church.
Compare stable, safe neighborhoods in Chicago to those dealing with violence and poverty and again, the difference will be the presence or absence of intact traditional families, mothers and fathers married for life. It is not even debatable: children do exceedingly better in the environment of their own blood related mother and father than any alternative, period!
Those of us in Mt. Greenwood have in recent weeks been eye witnesses to the incredible power and critical importance of the traditional family and a stable neighborhood when a crisis strikes.
These facts are rather self evident, but one would not know it by the votes of officials we have elected to represent us in Springfield and Washington. One would gather from their decisions that they see traditional marriage and the family as irrelevant. Traditional marriage and family are, however, irreplaceable, absolutely essential for children’s well-being, and must be protected and supported at all cost, against all attacks, and against anything that weakens them in any way; and especially, because marriage is not a cake walk to begin with, it needs the culture to support and encourage it, not burden and mock it! (Traditional marriage, and Christianity, it should be noted, are hated so viciously because they are about the only remaining obstacles to moral anarchy and cultural collapse).
Making a marriage work is simply and honestly not easy! In fact, it can be one of life’s greatest challenges. We’re not talking about making two computers communicate, or two machines harmonize. The sacrifice, patience, endurance, and good old fashioned forgiveness required to make a marriage successful often require herculean effort on the part of both parties, but it is more than possible and the rewards are great, they’re just notnecessarily immediate. And tragically, our culture now places a very high premium on immediate gratification.
The far south side of Chicago and its suburbs are noted for their stable families, neighborhoods and churches, but these are now under direct assault by the very ones we have elected to represent us in Springfield. Our elected officials, like Bill Cunningham, Kelly Burke and Fran Hurley, as well as Dick Durbin and Mark Kirk have, over the last several years favored legislation that will further undermine and destroy traditional families. Regardless of protests to the contrary, “same-sex marriage” is anti-marriage. Here’s why:
First, it is a case in point of Mark Twain’s “there is nothing more irritating than a good example.” Two individuals who pay the price, expend the labor, and endure the frustrations to make the gold standard of traditional marriage work make all those who fail that standard look bad. Just as the non-conformists in high school mocked and taunted the good students, so, cultural non-conformists despise the ideal. In simple terms, they are tired of “looking bad,” but rather than conforming to the norm they are determined to destroy it. Because our cultural and political leadership has historically valued children and families, moral nonconformists have been only partially successful up until now in derailing the family. However, these non-conformists are now the most powerful lobby in the nation and they are using that power to crush what is left of the traditional family and any other manifestation of Christianity.
Do you wonder where the inner city violence and poverty come from? It is largely the consequence of the destruction of the family that the Left has progressively foisted upon the nation.
In 1960 over 90% of America’s children lived with both parents in their growing up years. Today that number is a mere 48%. And, now this corruption is targeting neighborhoods like ours that have fought hard to maintain the beauty and goodness of the family.
We are told that allowing same-sex marriage will have no effect on traditional marriage. A simple look at those European nations which have accepted it exposes this lie. Scandinavian countries now have a minority marriage rate among heterosexual couples and many sociologists see its extinction in the near future. Leaders of the movement around the world have been forthright in stating that they loathe the traditional family. One stated publically, “it is a no brainer that the institution of marriage should not exist.” Her statement, it was reported, was met with loud applause! The Blaze notes that her words lend credence to critics who say that “thepush for gay marriage has less to do with the right to marry-it is about diminishing and eventually destroying the institution of marriage. . . .” An article in the Weekly Standard notes that Kari Moxnes, a Norwegian “feminist sociologist” sees “gay marriage. . .as a (welcome) death knell for marriage itself.” Let us understand this: once a country accepts the most extreme form of sexual deviation, everything less becomes acceptable. At that point, the question becomes WHY WOULD ANYONE IN THEIR RIGHT MIND LIMIT THEMSELVES TO JUST ONE PERSON FOR LIFE? Seriously, why, if it really doesn’t matter? We would say that it matters to God and the children of course, but, God and children are none entities to them. Thus, when abnormal is made normal, normal becomes abnormal. To underscore this point, consider how those who support same-sex marriage are hailed as heroes while supporters of traditional marriage are condemned as haters and bigots.
It is important that I note that there are many in the gay community who understand these issues and have publically stated their opposition to gay “marriage” because of the issues I have suggested above. However,those who speak out are few. I also expect that many others from that community would also join the opposition if they were given this information. It is not these people I concern myself with, but rather those, who, because they seek the destruction of the family without regard to God or children, are pushing this deadly agenda upon the nation and world.
Those of us who care about the well-being of children and who believe that adults should sacrifice for children and that it is unconscionable to sacrifice children on the altar of adults’ pleasure, must, at all cost, stand against the undermining and destruction of the traditional family. Promiscuity, easy divorce, same sex “marriage” and other deviations from traditional marriage have never been promoted as being beneficial to children, only “not so bad.” Well, they all play a role in diminishing the critical role traditional marriage plays in securing a child’s well-being and life itself, and therefore, they must be opposed.
Just as it would have been difficult to face down a German Lugar and refuse to betray one’s Jewish friends in Hitler’s Germany, it will be difficult to face the brutal assault the proponents of moral anarchy will launch against you should you oppose their agenda. But, as history has proven, heroes are often hated in the moment, but remembered forever. America’s forgotten children could sure use some heroes right about now.